IN SHORT:
- In floorball, a fine is introduced for solving public problem situations.
- After parents were introduced to the code of conduct, the situation in the grandstands at children’s games is improving.
- Active advice from parents can conflict with coaches’ instructions to players on the field.
- Astronomical salaries of professional sports stars tend to confuse parents.
- Sports experts remind – a maximum of 1% of young athletes will become professionals at all.
- Blame-finding is not considered the best approach to a positive solution in children’s sports.
For Liene Jansone, the coach of the children’s and youth basketball school “Rīga/Jugla”, the parents are on the balcony during the games, not behind them, and the former national team player admits that this has both pluses and minuses.
“You them [vecākus] don’t see, just hear. Why grateful? If you hear that something is wrong, you can look at it at any moment… Or say something like “enough!” Janson explained. “Or the complete sentence, which is such a standard for me: “They are just children.” And we remember our roles. At the Jugla sports school, we often remind parents of them. That’s why it’s nice that they listen to us, understand.”
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In recent floorball, disagreements broke out among 13-year-old players, involving not only coaches, but also judges and parents. As a result, a measure of punishment was adopted for the parents – the next mutual game at empty stands.
In the rules of floorball, LTV came across a thought-provoking point – a 100 euro fine for media involvement in solving problem situations.
Ilvis Pētersons, president of the Latvian Floorball Union, calls it not a restriction of freedom of speech, but a way to restrain emotional parents.
“Democratically, everyone can do what they want. We had observed that this is a kind of hacking on social media before these things are resolved within the floorball community,” Peterson said. “We try, but we don’t say that everything is perfect for us and everything is fine. We try to solve all the awkward things internally. There is no need to bring them outside, because at that moment a person has written something with heightened emotions, personally insulted someone. Then one day, those messages are deleted. Of course, today the Internet world does not forget anything, and then the bomb washes much further.”
After this incident, the Floorball Union sent a letter to all clubs with a reminder of basic things, such as order on the field and respect for the opponent. It turns out that this is nothing new – seemingly elementary things that parents are regularly reminded of in basketball and football as well.
There are observations that after reading the code of conduct, the situation in the stands improves.
“Those simple things need to be told, they are like road signs. If they weren’t there, we… don’t know how we would go,” said Aigars Armanovs, head of the Parents’ Council of the Latvian Basketball Association (LBS). “Road signs are simple, they show the direction, how to behave on the road. It’s similar.”
Renārs Krīgers, the head of the Marketing and Communication Department of the Latvian Football Federation (LFF), has observed the efforts of parents to get actively involved.
“You can feel that everyone is itching to yell at the coach or yell at the kid, what decision is better for him to make. Run to the right, hit or run there now,” admitted Kruger. “These are all false tasks that the parent tries to give from above. It is clear that the child looks, looks for his parents in the stands, and thinks whether he has made the right decision at that moment or not. So he starts to make mistakes.”
On the other hand, BJSS “Rīga/Jugla” coach Jansone stated that
parents’ orders may be in complete conflict with coaches’ positions.
“Perhaps the attitude of the coaches at the moment is not “self, herself, herself, run, run, run, give, give, give.” Maybe the coach’s attitude is “peace”, Jansone said. “At the same time, the coach shouts: “Peace!” From above, the parent: “Run, give, throw!””
Six years ago, Renars Krüger was the author of the “Tears of the King” educational program for parents of young football players. Currently, as the father of a six-year-old son, he reads the comic book he created with completely different feelings. These days, it’s almost impossible to hide from the news about the exorbitant salaries of famous athletes, and this is certainly one of the reasons why children’s sports are so exaggerated.
“Obviously, there is this desire: “Oh, my son will be a football player.” A special story is about the big money that is involved,” Krueger said. “With a very high probability, these children are sent to sports as a product of the future.”
On the other hand, the head of the LBS Parents’ Council Armanov reminded that
In the future of children, professional sports are rather an exceptional case.
“Statistics show that there are only one or two professional players from each age group. There are untalented ages from which there are no professional players,” Armanov emphasized. “Yes, we have had some talented ages in basketball that 6-7 professionals come out. But you have to understand at the root that out of all those ages, out of all those 20 or so teams in both divisions, out of all those players, only one or two will be professional players . There is a very small chance that it will be your child.”
The temptation to see a future star in your child is very great, Kruger admits.
“What if you shoot? What if our family will be provided for several generations? Is my kid going to be guaranteed and not have to do anything else in life, which of course is pretty delusional,” Krueger said. “Because we know that in that pyramid, the maximum is only one percent that will become professional football players. Everyone needs to understand that.”
Norberts Springis, the children’s football coach of the RFS football academy, urges not to rush to identify the culprits.
“I wouldn’t say that anyone is guilty in this situation. Everyone is equally guilty. Coaches and parents are equally guilty, in the end the victim is the child,” Springis revealed his point of view. “I think communication is to blame. The ability to sit down, calmly look at the child, understand
why we do something, how we do it and what we do – those are probably the three most important questions in life.
You always have to understand why a seven-year-old child has to win? Why should he go home with a medal? Why should you yell at a child? Why ask him for a result in 8-9 years? Just to stop and think about why we do things. Is it not enough for me as a parent that he is red-cheeked and smiling?”
Armanovs, the head of the LBS Parents’ Council, calls on children not to perceive the progress of sports in such a complicated way, but much simpler.
2024-03-12 08:14:05
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