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“Let children and young people be who they want to be and don’t tell them; “it’s wrong to look like that”.
I hoped I woke up one day and was just a boy.
In the past I was very anxious about public toilets and women’s dressing, now I am much more at ease with myself.
I am a fan of visualizing and use it every single day.”
The words are Miko Schiøtt Kongstads, a brave transman who, ever since kindergarten, has been able to feel that he felt like a boy. And even though his name was Mille at the time and he was biologically a girl.
Miko talks openly and honestly about her transition from woman to transman, a transition that peaked in 2021 with a top operation where the breasts were removed. He is now on hormone therapy.
At 16, Miko (Mille) tells her mother that she (she) would like to have her breasts removed at some point.
Look forward to an exciting episode where we talk about being non-binary, we’re going to the Island Games on Åland, a trip to the ladies’ changing room, visualization, hormone therapy and of course Miko gives three good pieces of advice for you who want to be mentally stronger.
17.00 What adversity and resistance has Miko met in his life because of one’s gender identity; i feel like a transman?
19.00 What requirements are there for today’s pedagogues, teachers and coaches in relation to accommodating more genders than just the two biological sexes (boy – girl)?
29.00 Badminton was a place and breathing space for Miko and he was really good at playing with the shuttlecock. However, two cruciate ligament injuries made Miko reflect on life and he gave up badminton at a high level.
32.30 Hear how Mille came to be called Miko.
40.00 What is a Mental Winner for Miko? And hear his definition of a “Mental Loser”.
An MV is a person who rests very much in himself, stands by his positions and opinions. Appears untouchable, but in a pleasant way towards other people. It is someone who respects other people even if they have different opinions.
A Mental Loser: tends to talk down to himself, can affect his surroundings with it, someone who does not give space to other people, is negative towards other people.
45.30 Miko’s three good tips for you who want to be mentally stronger.
Seek help
Express the feelings outwardly
Patience – things take time to get over
48.00 A trip to the Island Games on Åland and a dream of long smash compilations. Miko talks about his use of visualization.
52.30 What does Miko see, hear and feel just before he has to do his very best? He feels a great lightness, as if he is almost floating above the surface and it looks bright. It is quiet around him. Depending on the context, he sees himself in different situations.
57.50 Miko’s advice to her younger self in puberty: I want to hug myself and say that everything will work out. Your dreams must come true.
58.50 Miko’s advice to his older self at 60: I want to give myself a huge high 5 and say, it was good that you made the choices you did 30 years ago.
Follow your dreams so you can imagine that in the future.
Miko invites a strong Greenlander to the Mental Vinder studio, namely Qupanuk Olsen.
Miko invites young people and parents to contact her if they have questions about transition. You can get in touch with Miko on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/19miko89
At sexlinjen.dk and lgbt.dk you will find more information about gender and sexuality.
If you don’t already subscribe to the podcast, hurry up and do so. And please give it a recommendation. I fight for mental health for more people, because #youdeservethebestlife.
Thank you for listening.
